Apology

Hi Cal Folks, I wish to apologize for the message I sent a few days back sharing my problems. I did not check Janet's address and thought I was replying to her directly. Janet is an old friend of Bobbie and I, so we share good and bad. In my opinion, the Cal list is not appropriate for my type of post. I will be more careful in the future. To those of you who have replied off list, a sincere thank you for your kind words. Tom and Bobbie Vandiver, Cal 46 Satori, Cal 25 Bravura

Tom - Please, stop being silly! The Cal List for many of us is an extended family and has been almost from the outset. Many, many of us (including me when St. Lori was diagnosed with her second cancer in a single year or when one of my mentoring kids needed wisdom I couldn't supply) have shared our anxieties and problems and even our fears with the List and have found solace and comfort and friendship here among friends. The amazing thing is that people who have joined the list more recently quickly come to realize that our common bond of sailing and fixing our old Cals somehow has managed to create a greater strength and community than any of us early Listees would have ever expected. They take only a few days to somehow pick up the spirit of the list and the deep-rooted sense of decency that is here. Like a small town, this IS a community where you can share good times and bad ones with non-critical friends to find compassion and help and more than just talk about how to repair a busted gooseneck or a leaking portlight. To apologize for being human and having a need to reduce some of the pressures that life brings to each of us is something that is not necessary on this list. We have been together through health problems, hurricanes, lost boats, job losses, financial crises, divorces, deaths and births and tribulations with teenagers and through all of it we have supported each other and offered insight and help and many different perspectives. If ever there has been a microcosm of all that is good in sailing and in our America, it is this list. So cut the apologies. You are among friends. All the best to you and Bobbi through these trying times. Things will, of course, change, and you will get those morning that Mike mentioned where you wake up and see a sunrise and look around to enjoy the faces of good friends at sea. Best regards to you both. No apologies. \Rog Cal 29+ #1 Swiss Navy Cal 2-30 #77 St. Lori's Comet _____ From: Ca… [at] yahoogroups.com [mailto:Ca… [at] yahoogroups.com] On Behalf Of Tom Vandiver Sent: Thursday, July 27, 2006 4:49 AM To: Cal List Subject: [Cal_Boats] Apology Hi Cal Folks, I wish to apologize for the message I sent a few days back sharing my problems. I did not check Janet's address and thought I was replying to her directly. Janet is an old friend of Bobbie and I, so we share good and bad. In my opinion, the Cal list is not appropriate for my type of post. I will be more careful in the future. To those of you who have replied off list, a sincere thank you for your kind words. Tom and Bobbie Vandiver, Cal 46 Satori, Cal 25 Bravura

Hi, Tom - It is sooooo comforting to know there are people out there who are old than I am! Have a great birthday! Go sail your Cal 25 with your grandkids! \Rog Cal 29+ #1 Swiss Navy Cal 2-30 #77 St. Lori's Comet

Rog Jones wrote: > > > > > Like a small town, this IS a community where you can share good times > and bad ones with non-critical friends to find compassion and help and > more than just talk about how to repair a busted gooseneck or a > leaking portlight. To apologize for being human and having a need to > reduce some of the pressures that life brings to each of us is > something that is not necessary on this list. We have been together > through health problems, hurricanes, lost boats, job losses, financial > crises, divorces, deaths and births and tribulations with teenagers > and through all of it we have supported each other and offered insight > and help and many different perspectives. > > > > I > Amen!! And because we're good at offering free advice, we'll tell you when it's time to shut up and stop whining, if that ever becomes necessary. Meanwhile, no apologies are needed. Chris Campbell